What Everybody Ought To Know About Getting Married

So you think you’re ready to get married.  You’re head over heels in love and you know that you want to spend the rest of your life with that special someone, right?  You may be very right, but there are some things you should consider before you decide that you’re ready to take the plunge if you want to have a successful, long lasting marriage.

There are some things that everyone should know about getting married that many people seem to gloss over.  For instance, you might think that if things don’t work out you can just get a divorce, but divorces aren’t nearly as easy to go through as you might think.  For one, a divorce can be really expensive.  Especially when you consider that you may have a home or more than one home together, you’ve got all your accounts together; you jointly contribute to investments and may even have children.  The process can be quite messy and when you add children to the mix, you’re going to be messing with little hearts and minds.

You should also consider the fact that when you get married, you will be living with your spouse all the time.  This isn’t like dating where you can retreat to your place if things get tough.  You will discover bad habits and even bad moods of your spouse and this can often take the rose color off of your love.  It’s a good idea to make sure that you’re well aware of all moods and aspects of your partner’s personality before you commit to something as large as a marriage.

When you’re getting married, it’s really hard to see past the wedding, but you should keep in mind that a marriage is meant to be forever.  You might not always be madly in love with your partner.  You might even find that sometimes you don’t really like your partner, but if you’re going to have a successful marriage, you’re going to want to be committed to the relationship at least.  A strong commitment to your relationship will ensure that you work things out and think before you do something harsh – like cheat.

Speaking of cheating – and other matters that often seem superficial, but are so important – you must be able to trust your spouse.  It’s a good idea to make sure that you have a clear definition of what you expect when it comes to trust issues before you tie the knot.  For instance, what might you consider cheating?  What would you feel was an appropriate action if your spouse cheated on you?  Some women say that if their husband feels the need to go to a strip club, she can happily find other men that want to watch her strip.   When you are clear as to what you expect and allow your spouse to be as well, you will find that you’re better able to understand one another.

Don’t forget to communicate.  You’re going to be married – sharing a bed, a bathroom, a home, a life.  You should talk.  Share your dreams, thoughts, ideas and what you love as well as what you don’t love.  Communication helps to establish an understanding and intimacy that goes well beyond the bedroom.  Oh and when it comes to the bedroom, while the heat might be on right now, things might cool down.  It might be hard, but you have to make sure that what you’re feeling for your significant other isn’t just passion, or your marriage might fizzle if your intimate life does.

The good news is that lots of people get married and stay that way.  They work through their problems and manage to be happy in a long lasting relationship, but almost all of them say that they wished they would have known more about being married before they chose to get married.